Episodes
Monday Oct 21, 2019
Flutter: Social Justice Book Club with Hannah C.
Monday Oct 21, 2019
Monday Oct 21, 2019
Our Emotional Intelligence consultant, Hannah (see Episode 25: My Life is the Mmmbop Song) launched a Social Justice Book Club at the Golden Valley Public Library in Minneapolis. We talk how Hannah selects books for her book club and get insights on her motivation for starting it.
Moral to the Story: Change can effect not just family, but those around you.
Other Fun Topics Discussed:
- Twin Cities Pilgrimage
- Dakota Sacred Sites Tour
- Yes Virginia, there was slavery in Minnesota.
Future Books for the Club:
- My Grandmother's Hands by, Resmaa Menakem- January 20, 2020
- American Prison by, Shane Bauer - February 20, 2020
Past Book Club Selections:
- White Fragility by, Robin Diangelo
- A Good Time for the Truth: Race in Minnesota by, Sun Yung Shin
Get the Upcoming Book Club List:
- Email Hannah: hcarney@umn.edu
Monday Oct 14, 2019
Episode Thirty-One: I See London, I See France...Alone
Monday Oct 14, 2019
Monday Oct 14, 2019
Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) join us to discuss being American while traveling solo.
Moral to the Story: Travel makes you different.
Other Fun Topics Discuss:
- Tamu is traveling to Europe.
- Tiffany has two volumes of photos from her trips.
- Tamu's flight anxiety.
- Group consensus: there is plenty to do to keep you distracted on flights.
- Geography.
- Tiffany's Collage: Smoking in Amsterdam
- Food tastes better in their origin countries.
- Thuan Recommends: Churchill War Museum
- Feeling Triggered: Tamu passes on the Heineken Museum because Wight 1 used to drink it. Tiffany suggests going to exorcise the legacy of Wight 1.
- Tamu is taking a wig to change her persona in Amsterdam.
- Hair changes your personality.
- Tiffany suggests wearing a wig throughout the trip.
- Le Paris Noir Tour.
Travel & Race & Safety:
- Don't read the comments when you Google about being black and travelling.
- Being American carries more weight than blackness.
- Travel in Paris.
- Tales from the Camino de Santiago.
- Being American can also make you feel like an outsider aside from race/ethnicity.
- Passports: Concept of US passport as reparations.
- Head Scratcher Question: Are all Americans colonizers?
- Americans have a privilege abroad just by being American.
- Is it radical to travel?
Tuesday Oct 08, 2019
Episode Thirty: Shit Happens During the Day...Literally
Tuesday Oct 08, 2019
Tuesday Oct 08, 2019
Once again, it started as an innocent Get To Know Us question and turned into a full-blown episode. We are joined by Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) for a robust discussion about the ridiculous expense of bras, underwear cleanliness/rotation, and going commando.
Moral to the Story: Buy new underwear every six months, don't be like us and have them for years.
Other Fun Topics Discussed:
- The most money spent on a bra.
- Victoria's Secret was a bra/panty training ground for most of us.
- Tiffany was wearing the wrong sized bra because they were her mom's.
- Tiffany also didn't want boobs.
- Training bras.
- Tamu is going to London to see Jim.
- The consensus is that she will get laid.
- Local Business Shout-out: Allure Intimate Apparel.
- Nips are not a thing Tamu wants.
- Poor Thuan is mortified.
- No one will let Tamu finish her story.
- Third Love bras are hella expensive.
- Dudes just have to buy a 4-pack of Jockey underwear and are good to go.
- Tamu realizes her boobs are sagging because she is old and not because of mammograms.
- Thuan suggests going commando.
- A study from Tommy John shows Americans wear the same underwear multiple times in a row.
- Bad@Love PSA: Wash your clothes.
- Bad@Love PSA that we shouldn't need to remind you about: WASH YOUR PAN AFTER YOUR COOK/SEASON CHICKEN!!
- Mallory wore someone else's panties as a teen.
- Bad@Love Pro-Tip: Wear underwear inside out when borrowing.
- Bad@Love Saves the Planet: Go commando to save the landfills.
- H&M textile bins.
- Mallory's sports bra is at the end of the world.
- Correction: We meant Abercrombie & Fitch, not American Apparel.
- Mindblown: What if we are meant to be funky?
- Do hipsters wash their legs?
- Americans have a different immune system.
Asia According to Thuan:
- In Asia, you have different types of ice.
- Drink the ice that has holes in it. Don't drink the ice that is chipped off from a block.
- Ask for ice on the side.
- Drink bottled or canned.
Monday Sep 30, 2019
Flutter: Maintaining Relationship During Travels
Monday Sep 30, 2019
Monday Sep 30, 2019
Tamu is off to Europe for two whole months! Tiffany from (A)broad in Education joins Mallory as they talk about the difficulties of maintaining relationships while traveling, after traveling, and how a lot of it can be in your head when you simply realize that life happens.
Moral to the Story: Keeping in touch can be difficult. But when you stay connected, life flourishes.
Monday Sep 23, 2019
Flutter: Try the Bacon! Advice to Tamu in Europe
Monday Sep 23, 2019
Monday Sep 23, 2019
Tamu is off to Europe for two whole months! Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) join Mallory in giving her advice for her travels.
Moral to the Story: Say yes and don't be afraid to go off your plan.
Other Fun Topics Discussed:
- Find the Blue Light District in Amsterdam.
- Get tickets for attractions in advanced.
- Visit the Anne Frank house.
- Watching Van Gogh come to life at Atelier des Lumieres in France.
- Try the bacon!
- Anywhere Travel Guide Cards
- Looking for black travel information? Check out Travel Noire.
- Create a time capsule: send postcards to yourself as well as friends and family.
- Blood sausage in the UK and blood cubes in Vietnam.
Monday Sep 16, 2019
Monday Sep 16, 2019
We read Blythe Roberson's How to Date Men When You Hate Men basically because Mallory hates dudes and we want to get to the bottom of it.
Moral to the Story: Times are a changin'! You can write your own story when it comes to relationships.
Other Fun Topics Discussed:
- Get to Know Us: Relationship flashbacks. What do you do when you are triggered into a relationship memory?
- Wish them well even if they are assholes.
- #WePodcastLikeThis
- Hair Colorist Shout Out - to Shelly Rae of Paper Hair Salon.
- Everyone wanted Mallory to read this book.
- Mallory can't get past the hate because of her trust issues.
- Blythe might need Talkspace.
- You can chart your own path when it comes to love.
- Is the fairy tale real? Maybe, but it will end because love is a false construct.
- Pop culture dictates the rules.
- What does dating mean?
- The group hang.
- Is it so wrong to have phone conversations in 2019?
- Hold fast to your deal breakers.
- Have multiple crushes.
- The 2 question rule.
Monday Sep 09, 2019
Episode Twenty-Eight: Be Honest to Get What You Desire and Deserve
Monday Sep 09, 2019
Monday Sep 09, 2019
This week we talk with our friend and author of Reclaiming Choice: Awakening Peace and Power from Within, Gretchen about not compromising on your deal-breakers in relationships. BTW, she is also the lovely woman who let us record season one at her house.
Moral to the Story: You don't have to jump into dating immediately after a breakup.
Other Fun Topics Discussed:
- Get to Know Us: What should the legal smoking age be? 18 or 21?
- Our consensus was 19.
- Tamu is going to try a hash brownie when she goes to Amsterdam.
- #WePodcastLikeThis
- We create our own relationships. Get clear on your deal-breakers.
- Communicating with the Opposite Sex, by Alison Armstrong.
- Follow your gut.
- Don't compromise on your happiness.
- It is more sensible to look for what you desire and deserve, rather than waste someone's time.
- It is not easy to sit within yourself.
- Take time to process the end of relationships or else you'll bring that baggage into your next one.
- At the end of the day, be honest with what you want.
Book Recommendation:
Check out Gretchen's book, Reclaiming Choice: Awakening Peace and Power from Within:
Is the world going mad? Have you wondered if the violence and suffering will ever end? With gentle words, Gretchen speaks through the fog of pain and confusion to a culture that has lost its center. Conveyed in a personal narrative that is at once familiar and profound, she guides the reader through the layers of separation obscuring access to peace and wholeness. The journey is as healing as it is empowering; awakening the reader to the importance of reclaiming their right of conscious choice. In the process, Gretchen builds a bridge between where we are now and where we can go as individuals, communities and as a human race. It is a refreshing perspective, worthy of consideration, discussion and application.
Monday Sep 02, 2019
Flutter: Not Going to Have Sex to that Weird Pac Man Song
Monday Sep 02, 2019
Monday Sep 02, 2019
This week we are talkin' 'bout the songs that maybe shouldn't be played when the mood strikes thanks to the Huff Post article, 20 Songs You Should Never Pay During Sex.
Moral to the Story: Red flags can also be found in playlists.
Other Fun Topics Discussed:
- The Toy Story toys probably have jizz on them.
- Mallory has her own version of Baby Shark.
- Tamu doesn't know anything by Tom Waits.
- The Star Spangled Banner is racist.
- Mallory knows someone who would bang to the song, Tears in Heaven.
- Shout out to C-Dot from the Meme-ing of it All and her love for Old Town Road.
- Would you include Old Town Road to your playlist?
- Mallory's mom wanted her and her brother to be in a Hanson-esque band.
- Wight 2 played Closer, by Nine Inch Nails after sex with Tamu. She was unsure as to whether or not it was a compliment.
Monday Aug 26, 2019
Episode Twenty-Seven: It's Too Late, Mariah
Monday Aug 26, 2019
Monday Aug 26, 2019
Originally, this was supposed to be a Flutter, but there was so much to say, it became its own episode. We are joined by friend and benefactress (we recorded season one at her house), Gretchen to discuss compassion, forgiveness, and moving on from people in our families who have hurt us in the past that are now facing their own mortality.
Moral to the Story: Forgiveness doesn't require face-to-face interactions, it can be done individually and energetically.
Other Fun Topics Discussed:
- Jim's drunk text almost wrecked Tamu's upcoming London visit.
- You don't have to explain your truth to anyone.
- Live as clean of a life as possible.
- Mallory bought 2 pairs of shoes!
- It is the family we create that matters, not always the family we are given.
Monday Aug 19, 2019
Flutter: Suck It, Tommy! Your Mom's a Douche.
Monday Aug 19, 2019
Monday Aug 19, 2019
This week we are joined by friend and special guest, Gretchen to discuss a woman who lost her shit at Disney waiting on line for a pretzel with her 3-year-old and took to Facebook to vent her frustrations on single, childless people...and their short shorts.
Moral to the Story: PACK FUCKING SNACKS!
Other Fun Topics Discussed:
- Mallory equates dogs to toddlers and toddlers to drunk adults.
- Gretchen went to Niagara Falls in utero and shockingly doesn't remember it.
- We would love to hear what A Non Mom Happy Hour thinks.
- New travel document: Trip disclosures for kids.
- Mallory's dad had to go to the Hall of Presidents while his parents enjoyed the Disney parade.
- Gretchen bitch slaps the mic.